What other people think or perceive of us is irrelevant.
Other people's opinions of us does not matter to us. They only matter in business and other petty things. It is not in any way important.
To put so much on the minds of others is ludicrous and wasteful. No one has the capacity to understand anyone else. Not fully.
I don't even give that power to my family. I stand alone, forever and always. And I am happy to do so.
So spare me the bullshit and fuck off and die.